Yeah, you will never hear me say those words. Who really likes to brag about themselves? Who likes to think so highly of themselves that they are willing to walk around and tell people just how wonderful they are?
My daughter, Jelly Bean, is one of those people.
Now, before you think that I have a little ego-crazy hellion on my hands, let me explain. She is only three. That might make the explanation better or worse, but she seriously doesn't have a conceited streak in her body. She just likes to entertain and to please others. Some think she will be in the theatre when she is older. Only time will tell.
She is really into putting on beautiful dresses and in the beginning, everyone would say, "You look so pretty." So naturally, she puts on a dress and says, "I so pretty, mommy."
When her sunglasses are on, those around her would laugh and tell her, "Wow, you look so cool!" Of course, she now tells everyone, "I'm so cool" when the shades are on.
Grandma recently gave her a new Tinkerbell hat and she loves to show it off. She will stare at herself in the mirror and pose and smile. One time as I was trying to get her out of the bathroom, I teased her, "Honey, you are adorable...now get over it and let's go!"
In reality, though, there is something refreshing about someone who truly likes herself. Love of self is not an attractive trait by any means, but having a certain amount of self confidence helps a person to be well adjusted and able to tackle whatever life throws at him or her. Her self esteem might serve her well for those moments when someone may try to squash it away. If she remembers there are people that love her exactly the way she is, those moments of contention will leave less of an impact.
In the meantime, my job is to help her nurture her confidence in a productive way that does not detract from others or gives her a false sense of empowerment. Wish me luck.